Premarital Sex

Premarital Sex is Forbidden in most religions.WHY is it frowned upon so much! If we go according to Nature we should be married around 16 or so because that's when we hit puberty. but now with the competitive world it's almost impossible and funny to get married at that age. Face it we all are humans so it doesn't mean that we don't get the need until we are married. In olden days people got married very young so there were very less problems about Premarital sex, but today its different most men get married after 30 and women around 25 .Men who ,are in there thirties wont be probably keeping there virginity until they get married, I am not telling everyone is like this but most wont. After all the messages we receive from most TV shows and movies these days tells us "everyone is doing it, right?so most youngesters must be confused and probably having the wrong picture about the whole thing. so after reading some articles i got some information about what some religions tell about Premarital sex, hope you guys would find it interesting and Useful.

Buddhism
Buddhists believe that sex before marriage is not immoral if there is love and consent between the two parties involved. According to Buddhist precepts, as long as the act of sex does not cause harm to you or another person in any way, it is permissible.

Hinduism
Hinduism's received moral traditions about premarital sex are rooted in its concept of the stages of life. One of these stages is the life of the celibate student, which precedes the stage of the married householder. Celibacy is considered the appropriate behavior for both male and female students (or unmarried singles who have left school). Hinduism holds this view not because it regards sex as inherently sinful, but because of this belief in certain life stages.

Islam
According to the Qur'an, "the believers are...those who protect their sexual organs except from their spouses... Therefore, whosoever seeks more beyond that [in sexual gratification], then they are the transgressors." (23:5-6). Muslim scholars say this statement "makes it very clear that any sexual gratification outside marriage is considered a transgression of the law of God."

Catholic

The Catholic church teaches that situations where sex occurs outside of marriage "offend against the dignity of marriage; they destroy the very idea of the family; they weaken the sense of fidelity. They are contrary to the moral law. The sexual act must take place exclusively within marriage. Outside of marriage it always constitutes a grave sin and excludes one from sacramental communion."

Even though it is Hard to suppress your feelings and desires when your with the love of your life, I think one should keep ones virginity Until marriage, because from what I have heard and read Sex after marriage is the most wonderful experience ever, why spoil it and mess it up? and think of all the risks and

headaches you will have to go through ? fear of pregnancy, fear of disease and by any chance if you wont be able to marry the same person think of the guilt you will be carrying in your heart everyday when your with your husband or wife later on !

Marriage is a sacred thing between two pepol which is built with love and trust.the bond between a husband and a wife gets stronger with the shared intimacy. its best not to spoil it and loose the spark....so folks Save it for sthe most heavenly and unforgetable day of your life!!

Half dressed women

Last weekend while I was hanging out with my friends in a shopping mall I saw this huge lady wearing a very tight extremely short, short . it was like almost as she was naked , I wanted to throw up there itself. the best part was her husband or boyfriend or someone was walking holding hands with her so happily. my question is ,is this man blind? I mean doesn't he care that the whole world is looking at his lady . this is not the first time I have come across situations like this, many times i have seen gals wearing reveling clothes and walking as if they are exhibits . don't they have parents? husbands? or someone who cares about them. when a daughter goes out from home half naked what kind of a father will keep quiet?(i wish only a dumb one)
some of u must think I am narrow minded , but this is how I feel. I feel a woman's beauty is precious and should not be exhibited..it cant be because i was brought up that way , because most of my friends back in SL and my Indian friends over here dress modestly... it make them more beautiful and respectful.. even though men are happy to have these kind of women to flirt about I don't think most of them would want a women like this to be their WIFE.
because these women are only a pass time for them , when it comes to the role of wife , most men want a HOMELY girl..once upon a time I had this friend who told that he doesn't care whether his gal friend was with clothes or without clothes as long as she looked HOT!!! and same goes for all the men who are going around holding hands with underly dressed women, they want the world to know how good their girl friend looks,just to show off. I don't know where is the world going today.. what happened to all the traditions and the modesty of women.. women are loosing the respect they used to get by themselves...
Let me know what is your opinion on this!

VALENTINES DAY

Valentines Day! What’s the big deal? I always thought like that. Some soppy couples exchanging cards, choc and flowers. That’s all it was for me few years ago. but then this year it was different , I had the perfect guy in my life. when 14 th of February was approaching I felt exited , I wanted to give something to H I wanted to show I loved him, I kept in my mind to make him something , but with college work it kind of slipped my mind and on 13th night I was left with nothing..
so I searched through my stuff and found some card making stuff, then when I went to get my bag it was missing SHOOT all my things were inside that, pencils, pens glue everything , I must have left it in canteen or somewhere or someone must have stolen my bag , anyway I was left with a blank white card , suddenly I got an idea I took my Pink lipstick and started making the white card PINK in one hour I had something u could call a card . somewhat satisfied. I waited till 12 midnight looking at my mobile. there were no messages . 12.30 still nothing.. I knew he had a midterm tomorrow and was studying but does it take that long to send one TEXT? Around 1 am I got mad and called him, he was like im so busy dear,, I said anyway I wanted to meet him in ten mins.. After all it was Valentines Day right?
So when I met him I gave him the card and the Big choc I bought, he laughed in a good way at the card said thanks and went back to his room.
I was kind of hurt THATS IT? I thought. I thought may be in the morning he would give me something. Don’t think I am crazy I just wanted my Boy friend to show me some love...
Anyway in the morning it was almost as usual as any other day. but not for other people who were madly in love, there was a request show in college, everywhere happy gals carrying flowers, and I really lost my patience when I saw a guy hiding near his gals room to surprise her with blue and pink tulips (I think it was tulips) it was so beautiful, at that moment my phone rang and it was Mr. H, he asked me what's wrong u seem to be pretty dull the whole day.
I got so mad I yelled at him telling don’t u realize its VALENTINES DAY. Is it so hard for u to say HAPPY VALENTINES DAY? Then he told me, u know I don’t believe in this stupid day? I didn’t think it mattered to u so much I am sorry ill make it up for u somehow. I thought whatever and hung up
That night all my friends were showing the gifts they got for valentines and I was so jealous and I thought wow aren’t they lucky?

But after two days one of my friends were dumped, another friend was cheated. Then only I realized how lucky I am? I had this wonderful guy who would do anything for me , who would tie my shoe lace in the middle of the road, who cares for my mum and dad as much as I do. Who doesn’t even let me do my own laundry, who makes me soup when I’m sick. Who never lets me be alone, Who loves me for what I am , a guy who is so supportive, loving and caring..
Does it matter that he doesn’t celebrate Valentines Day? after all its just another day!! I figured out that in his life he doesn’t need to have a special day to love me or show his love, because every minute of every hour he shows it in so many ways.

Away from home

I always wanted to do my Degree overseas, somewhere far from home, where my mum and dad couldn't nag me, where i could do things my own way, where i could sleep at 4 am and get up at 12 noon , basically a land without rules...can say it was one of my fantasies.

Anyway now i am so many miles away from home ,and yes i can sleep at anytime i want ,wake up at any time, go for class or simply chill out with my friends .believe me there's no one to shout at me, I could eat all the JUNK I want , go anywhere I want at anytime, freedom is unlimited...

Life is much easy over here, no crowded buses with conductors yelling "passata yanda paasata yanda",no perverts in buses trying to take advantages of my innocence, no smokey roads with dust all around me, its quite a nice place to live...
But after living one year here, do u know what i realised? "There's no place better than home"
I miss my mums nagging , miss her yummy food, back then I would have given anything to switch my stringhoppers for KFC chicken, now I would give anything to have stringhoppers,
I miss the sandwiches that mum used to pack for me every morning,
I miss having a nice girl talk in SINHALA, miss fighting for the remote with my sisters.

I am not telling college life is bad , its nice to hangout at night and keep talking , go to midnight movies and eat fast food,but sometimes what ever u do or how many great friends u have, u feel a bit left out when your not local.

I miss being looked after, i miss being home.I crave for one of those long conversations with my girl friends.most of all it kills me to come back to an empty room at the end of the day.
I wish I had someone to yell at me when I'm on the phone with my boy friend late at nigh.

You know what ? now I really miss the rules at home,, I soooo want to sleep at 10 pm and get up before 7 am.I want to have a proper breakfast, lunch and dinner. I want to make fun of mum and make her mad, I want to help dad with marketing.
I so so so wanna hangout with my friends at MC (LOL)

If your home right now, u don't know how lucky you are , to get your parents care and love , to be looked after ,to be totally dependant on them. I miss being at home.
I really wish i was in galleface with my family eating "isso wade" right now...
Its almost 6 am now so i better go to bed.
Bye for now